RELOCATION, REPATRIATION AND LIFE TRANSITIONS COACHING FOR WOMEN
You've held everything together for so long that your own reactions are starting to scare you.
You are snapping when you don't want to, crying when you can't explain why, and carrying a tension you can't seem to switch off.
There’s a reason this is showing up now. Your reactions are telling you something about what you’ve been carrying for far too long.
You can feel like yourself again, less braced, clearer about what you want, and able to make decisions without fear, guilt or everybody else’s needs taking over.
A move abroad, coming home, relationship breakdown, bereavement or another major life change may have brought it to the surface. My work is about getting underneath what is really happening, so you don’t have to keep living around the same patterns.
DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR
You packed up your life and got on with it.
Nobody asked how you actually were.
You’ve got very good at coping. That doesn’t mean coping is still working.
Maybe you moved countries and did everything you were supposed to do. Maybe you came home expecting relief and felt more disorientated than before. Maybe your relationship ended, someone died, your role changed, or you simply looked around at a perfectly reasonable life and realised you’ve disappeared somewhere inside it.
You kept going because that’s what you do.
You managed the practical things. You kept other people steady. You adjusted. You swallowed what you really wanted to say because sometimes dealing with everyone else’s reaction felt harder than staying quiet.
Eventually that starts showing up somewhere.
The short temper. The resentment. The tears that make no sense. The feeling that everybody wants something from you. The strange panic when somebody asks what you want and your mind goes blank.
What I see repeatedly in this work is that the thing women think is the problem often isn’t the real problem.
The snapping isn’t the real problem. Neither is the overthinking. They are usually the point at which years of overriding yourself finally become impossible to ignore.
The thing I don’t believe you need is more advice about how to cope better.
Most of the women who come to me are already very good at coping, and in many ways that is part of the problem because being capable has become the thing that keeps them going long after something underneath has started asking for their attention.
They’ve read the books, they understand a lot about themselves and they often know exactly where their people-pleasing, overthinking or habit of putting everybody else first came from. They can explain the pattern perfectly well, but when the pressure rises they still find themselves reacting in the same way, saying yes when they mean no, second-guessing themselves or carrying everyone else before they even stop to ask what they need.
Knowing why something happens and being able to respond differently when it actually matters are not the same thing.
That distinction sits right at the heart of my work, because I’m not interested in giving you more insight to add to the insight you already have. I work underneath the reaction and underneath the coping, with the patterns you may understand intellectually but still cannot seem to change when real life happens.
Understanding yourself is useful, but the real shift is being able to notice the old pattern as it starts, have more space around it and respond differently when the moment is actually there in front of you.
WHAT BECOMES POSSIBLE
You’re not trying to become somebody new.
You’re trying to get back to the woman who can hear herself.
The change often looks much more ordinary than people expect, because it is not always some huge dramatic moment where everything suddenly feels different. It is more often the small, everyday things that start to shift first.
Somebody asks what you want and, instead of automatically thinking about everybody else, you actually have an answer.
You say no, feel the flicker of guilt, and notice that you do not immediately change your mind just to make everybody else more comfortable with your decision.
A difficult conversation happens and, instead of replaying it for the next three days and wondering whether you were too much, too blunt or somehow in the wrong, you are able to let the conversation be what it was and move on.
You start noticing when you are reaching your limit before resentment has to announce it for you, which means you can speak sooner, ask for what you need sooner, and stop waiting until you are already at the end of yourself.
When a decision comes up, you are no longer automatically gathering everyone else’s opinions before you trust your own. You can care deeply about the people around you without making their feelings the deciding factor in what you choose.
You feel less braced in your own life, steadier in yourself, and more able to trust what you think, what you feel and what you actually want.
You have not become harder or more selfish. You have simply stopped disappearing from your own decisions.
What women say....
"When I first found Loretta I was in bits. My partner had cheated and I was stuck in my head, exhausting myself with it. She gave me the courage to make the changes I was terrified of. Now I am focusing on me again. My kids, my hobbies, my life. She did not just help me get through it. She helped me find myself again."
R.F
"She helped me get things in order, reminded me of my own capabilities, and taught me how to be resilient. She helped me learn to enjoy the busy life that had become overwhelming."
V.B
"I moved abroad thinking the hard part was the logistics. The hard part was not knowing where I fit in and who I was in the new place. Loretta helped me find my footing and how feel like myself again. Not the old version. Something steadier."
M.S
THE APPROACH
Root level work. Not more advice.
Something that actually holds.
Most women who come to me already understand themselves pretty well. They know why they overthink, over function or keep putting themselves last. The problem is that knowing why has not stopped the reaction happening.
This work goes underneath the thinking. We work with the patterns that have become automatic, so you are not just understanding yourself better, you are actually responding differently in the moments that used to take over.
I draw on these approaches depending on what you need, so the work is shaped around you rather than forcing you into one particular method.
PASEDA360 ADVANCED PRACTITIONER
Depth based coaching that works with the beliefs, identity and patterns underneath what is happening now. We look beyond the immediate problem to what has been shaping how you respond, what you tolerate and the choices you make.
EVENT HAVENING
A psychosensory technique used to work with distressing experiences and the emotional responses connected to them. It can help reduce the emotional intensity attached to what has happened, without needing to repeatedly talk through every detail.
LIMITLESS LIGHT THERAPY
A therapeutic approach used to work with earlier experiences and emotional patterns that are still affecting how you feel and respond now. It allows us to work with what is underneath the pattern, including experiences that may be difficult to make sense of through thinking alone.
TRAUMA INFORMED THROUGHOUT
Everything is shaped around you, your pace and what feels appropriate in the moment. Nothing is forced, there is no one size fits all process, and you stay part of every decision about where the work goes.
WHO THIS IS FOR
This is for you if any of this sounds familiar
BEFORE THE MOVE
She is about to relocate
The logistics are in hand. Underneath the planning there is a quiet anxiety she has not said out loud yet about who she will be when she gets there.
RETURNING
She came home and it doesn't feel like home either
She thought returning would feel like relief. Instead she is caught between two versions of herself and neither one feels settled.
ABROAD
She moved but it still doesn't feel like home
You did everything right. Something still feels off. A version of you got left behind somewhere and you're not sure how to find her again.
ANY LIFE TRANSITION
Her life changed in a way she didn't choose
A relationship ending. A bereavement. A new chapter that arrived without warning and left her wondering who she is in it.
What you have in common with every woman I work with is this: you are not in crisis. You are done. Done with pushing through, done with putting yourself last, done with the exhaustion of being the one who holds it all together. You want to stop coping and start choosing. You want to feel, for the first time in a long time, at home in yourself.
HOW DO YOU KNOW IF THIS IS FOR YOU
The women who find me are rarely looking for coaching.
They are looking for someone who gets it.
Are you holding it all together for everyone else while the version of you that knows what she actually wants has gone very quiet?
Are you living somewhere new and still waiting to feel settled, like yourself, like you actually arrived?
Are you back home after years abroad and finding that home doesn't feel like home anymore either?
Are you exhausted in a way that sleep does not fix, because it is not tiredness but the weight of being last on your own list for a very long time?
Are you done? Not in crisis. Just done with carrying on as you are?
If any of that landed, the connection call is the right next step. Not a sales call. A real conversation about where you are and what would actually need to shift.
HOW WE WORK TOGETHER
Ways to work with me
Everything points to the free connection call. You do not need to know which offer is right for you before we speak, that is what the call is for.
SPECIALIST OFFER · RELOCATION, EXPAT AND REPATRIATION
Relocation, Expat & Repatriation
For women navigating a move, expat life, or coming home
Eight private sessions over ten weeks. This programme supports you with the emotional, identity and relationship impact of relocation. Whether you are preparing to move, struggling to settle after arriving, or discovering that returning home feels more disorienting than expected.
We work through what the move has brought to the surface so you can understand what has changed, decide what you need now, and begin building a life that feels like yours. You do not just survive the move. You actually arrive.
£1,500
Or three payments of £500
FOR SIGNIFICANT LIFE TRANSITIONS
The Signature 1:1
For women navigating a significant life transition and no longer willing to lose themselves inside it
Six private sessions over six weeks. Focused, therapeutic coaching for women navigating relationship breakdown, bereavement, identity change, or years of putting themselves last.
We work beneath the immediate situation to address the patterns shaping how you respond, what you tolerate, and the choices you make next.
£895
Pay in full or 2 payments of £447.50
HAVE DECISION FATIGUE?
The Decision Intensive
£350
Single Session
A focused private session for women deciding whether to move, stay, return home, or relocate again. For the decision that has become tangled in fear, guilt, family needs, and everybody else's expectations. One session. One honest conversation. Clarity on what you actually want to do next.
Not sure which offer is right for you? You do not need to know before we speak. The connection call is where we work that out together.
I know what it feels like to hold everyone else together while something in you quietly contracts. To keep showing up, keep managing, keep getting on with it, while a version of yourself gets left behind.
With twenty years of lived experience navigating relocation, repatriation, loss and major life change, I know what I am asking you to trust me with. I have been where you are. That is not a marketing line. It is part of why this work is what it is.
I am Loretta Davie, a life transitions coach for women, offering specialist life coaching for women going through major life changes, including relocation, repatriation, expat life, relationship breakdown and bereavement. I work online with women worldwide and in person across Gloucestershire, Worcestershire and Herefordshire.
My work combines Paseda360, Event Havening, Limitless Light Therapy and trauma informed therapeutic coaching. I use different approaches depending on what you need, rather than expecting you to fit yourself into one particular method.
The work is warm, direct and root level. We look at what is really driving the patterns you keep finding yourself in, so you can feel less braced, trust yourself more and start making choices that feel like yours again.
Nothing about you is broken.
hi i'm Loretta
Your life transitions coach for women, based in Gloucestershire & online.
Certified Paseda360 Advanced Practitioner
Transformational Life Coach
Trained in Event Havening
Therapeutic coach with lived experience.
IF SOMETHING IS HOLDING YOU BACK
This is probably what it is
The women who need this work most are often the ones who take longest to reach out.
"I do not know if my situation is serious enough."
You do not need to have hit a wall. You just need to be done with carrying on as you are.
"I have tried coaching before and it did not really work."
If it kept things in the thinking brain, that is exactly why it did not hold. This work goes to where the pattern actually lives, not where the understanding is.
"What if I start and it is too much to deal with right now?"
The pace is yours. The connection call is the right place to talk through timing before you commit to anything.
"I feel like I should be able to sort this on my own."
That feeling is the pattern. You do not get a prize for sorting this one alone too.
FREE RESOURCE
The Holding It Together Audit
Five honest questions for the woman who holds everything together. Because the only way to change something is to name it first.
This is not a quiz with a score. It is a mirror. Five questions that give you a real picture of where you are right now, how long you have been there, and what it is actually costing you. Your results come with tailored reflections and a clear next step based on what comes up.
Takes five minutes. It is free. If it stirs something up, that is exactly the point.
The Holding It Together Audit
Free · 5 questions · 3 result profiles
BEFORE YOU BOOK
Questions women ask
READY TO START
If any of this feels like it was written about you,
the connection call is where we start.
Forty five minutes, free, no obligation. You tell me where you are. I tell you honestly whether and how I can help, and what that would look like. No pitch, no pressure, just a real conversation between two women, one of whom has been where you are. From coping to choosing, one honest call at a time.
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